I especially connected with the part that suggested that I expect my mother not to have defects of character common to many people. I was often embarrassed and quietly full of rage when my mom would act in a way that I believed was clearly “way off” or very clearly “illogical”, “dishonest” “over the top angry” or “passively aggressive”. What I didnt know was that I was resentful because I expected more from her than she could give me. I wanted a perfect mom, rather than a human mom.

I realize today that I do that to Sheryl too. I demand more than she can comfortably give, and this leads to my ever so popular title as “demanding tyrant”…………….. I have in the last few months been blessed with the realization that I will miss both of my parents horribly when they are gone. I realize too that I love them both more than ever. I feel blessed to receive this gift before they are gone, and today I am a more loving son than ever before. I need to transfer this newly formed reality to my marriage, and to understand that Sheryl’s defects are minute compared to her assets, which of course, is why I married her.

Your friend always

Tony C

Love,
Tom
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I chose to become.” carl young

We were going to use your blog as a writing tool, but I dont know how to start. Do you have some suggestions.?

Tony